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Energy Awareness

Energy Awareness

Maintaining Energy as a Leader: A Conversation About Staying Grounded and Giving Back

Leadership can be a mixed bag, can’t it? Some days you’re nailing it, energised and on top of things. Other days, it feels like you’re carrying the weight of everyone’s struggles as well as your own. It’s no small task to lead while keeping your own energy tank full. So, let’s talk about how to maintain energy for yourself and your colleagues. Here are four practical strategies to help you lead with strength, care, and a little bit of humour.

1. Be the Constant

Consistency is one of the greatest gifts you can offer as a leader. When times are tough, people need clarity and stability. By being clear about expectations—what needs to be done, how it needs to be done, and by when—you provide a safe foundation for your team. But don’t mistake “constant” for “robotic.” Acknowledge that it’s tough out there. Saying, “This is hard, and I see you doing your best,” goes a long way.

Liz Wiseman talks about the dangers of being an “Optimist” as an accidental diminisher in her book Multipliers. When we focus only on silver linings, we can accidentally dismiss how challenging things are. Instead of saying, “You’ve got this!” on repeat, try saying, “This is a lot. Let’s work through it together.”

Your steady presence creates a sense of security and lets your team know they’re not alone.

2. Hand-Hold When Needed

Sometimes people don’t need a pep talk—they need a partner. Feeling isolated can sap energy faster than a poorly planned Monday morning meeting. That’s where shadow-coaching comes in.

Get alongside your team members, especially when they’re navigating something tricky. This might mean sitting in on a challenging meeting with them, offering feedback on a draft, or simply being there as they take the first steps towards a new skill or task. It’s not about micromanaging; it’s about being a temporary crutch when someone’s feeling unsteady.

When we walk beside our colleagues, we remind them that they’re part of a team—and that’s incredibly energising.

3. Know Your Locus of Control

Here’s a tough truth: sometimes, we pour our energy into things we simply can’t control. Maybe it’s a decision from the higher-ups, the behaviour of others, or even the weather ruining an outdoor event. If you can’t influence it, is it worth your energy?

Take a moment to identify where your energy is being drained unnecessarily. Then, refocus on what you can control—your own actions, priorities, and mindset. This shift not only protects your energy but also models resilience and practicality for your team.

Remember, your ability to lead effectively grows when you focus on the things within your reach.

4. Identify What Motivates You

Leading others requires clarity about what keeps you energised. Are you the type who thrives on ticking off a to-do list? Or maybe your morning routine sets the tone for your day? If you’re a planner, lean into that strength. Use your diary to block out not just work tasks but also breaks to recharge.

For some, it’s about setting boundaries around when to switch off. For others, it’s finding joy in small moments—a good cup of coffee, a chat with a colleague, or a quiet walk to clear your head. Whatever it is, prioritise it. When you’re motivated and grounded, it’s easier to uplift those around you.

Final Thoughts

Leadership isn’t about being superhuman. It’s about staying connected to what keeps you energised and passing that energy on to your team in ways that are thoughtful, intentional, and real.

So, next time you feel your energy dipping, revisit these four strategies: Be the constant, hand-hold when needed, focus on your locus of control, and lean into what motivates you. It’s not about doing everything perfectly—it’s about showing up consistently with care and clarity.

Go well this week,


Mary-Anne

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