Beyond Advice - When your worth starts riding on someone else’s results.

Beyond Advice
When your worth starts riding on someone else’s results.

It happens quietly.
You give guidance. Share your experience. Cheer them on.
You want them to succeed—of course you do.
But somewhere along the way, their wins start to feel like your validation.
And their struggles? Like a reflection on you.

The Weight We Carry

It sounds like:
“If they succeed, I’ve done well.”
“If they fail, I didn’t do enough.”
That’s a heavy (and false) story.

Signs it’s creeping in:
– Feeling responsible for their lack of progress
– Over-functioning to make sure they “get there”
– Sharing advice that’s more about your need to help than their need to grow
– Feeling deflated when things go off track

The Shift

Real leadership isn’t about owning the outcome.
It’s about walking alongside—grounded, present, and clear.

From pressure → to presence

• “How can I support them to trust their own thinking?”

• “Can I stay anchored in my purpose, not their pace?”

From fixing → to facilitating

• “What strengths do they already have?”

• “What feels right for them right now?”
  
  

From outcome → to ownership

• “This is their journey. I’m here, not carrying—just walking beside.”

Your Worth ≠ Their Results

Leadership isn’t about delivering success through others.
It’s about creating space for others to grow.

So if you’re carrying someone else’s progress like it’s your own—pause. Breathe.
Offer presence, not pressure.
Support, not solutions.
Trust, not control.

You are not their transformation.
You are the steady hand, the quiet voice, the guide.

And that? That’s enough.

Keep showing up.
Keep growing.
 

Keep smiling.
MA :-)