Giving Feedback Without Fear “Will you still like me tomorrow?”

Giving Feedback Without Fear
“Will you still like me tomorrow?”

It’s the quiet question that often sits behind feedback conversations—especially when we care.

We don’t want to hurt feelings.
We don’t want to be seen as cold.
So we soften… sidestep… stay silent.

But holding back isn’t kindness.
It’s comfort.

Real feedback—clear, respectful, and rooted in care—is how we grow.

Why it Matters

Avoiding feedback creates false peace.
In the short term, it feels safe.
Over time, it breeds confusion, resentment, and mistrust.

Without feedback, people don’t know how they’re doing—or what’s expected.
And the longer we wait, the harder the conversation becomes.

How to Give Feedback That Lands

• Anchor in care, not control
  “I’m sharing this because I believe in you.”
  
  

• Be clear and kind
  “I noticed [specific behaviour]—and I think it’s getting in the way of [outcome]. Let’s talk.”
  
  

• Focus on impact, not intent
  “When that happened, here’s how it affected the team.”
  
  

• Leave room for response
  “How does that land with you?”
  “Is there anything I’ve missed?”
  
  

• Stay in relationship
  Feedback isn’t about being right—it’s about being real and respectful.

Letting Go of the Fear

That little voice—“Will they still like me?”—may never fully go away.
But we can learn to hold it lightly.

Because when feedback comes from belief in someone’s potential, it deepens trust.
It says: I see you. I care enough to be honest. I believe you can grow.

So next time you hesitate, ask:
→ Is this about their comfort—or mine?
→ What does clarity and care look like here?

Feedback done well isn’t about being liked tomorrow.
It’s about who they’ll become because you chose courage today.

Let’s keep showing up with honesty, heart, and humanity.
Even when it’s uncomfortable—especially then.

Go with courage and compassion,
MA :-)