The Mini-Me Trap - Mentoring isn’t about making a copy.

The Mini-Me Trap
Mentoring isn’t about making a copy.

It starts with good intentions.
You’re mentoring someone new.
You want to help—so you share what’s worked for you.

Your systems. Your shortcuts. Your way.

And before you know it…
They’re thinking and acting just like you.

That’s the Mini-Me Trap.
Helpful? Sometimes.
But growth doesn’t come from cloning.

It comes from creating space—for thinking, experimenting, and building confidence in their way.

We don’t need copies.
We need diverse, capable contributors who bring their own strengths to the table.

So how do we avoid the trap?

Mentoring = Offering a map
“Here’s what worked for me, and why.”
It builds clarity and trust—great for getting started.

Coaching = Helping them build their own map
“What matters most to you here?”
“How might you approach it?”
It centres their thinking, and supports lasting growth.

Try this simple shift:

• Mentor first:
  “Would it help if I shared how I approached something similar?”
  “One thing I’ve learned is…”
  

• Then coach:
  “What have you already considered?”
  “What outcome are you aiming for?”
  “What’s one next step you could try?”

These aren’t just questions.
They’re invitations—to think, to own, to grow.

Because the goal was never to create a Mini-Me.
It’s to grow someone into a strong, clear, confident version of themselves.

So next time you’re mentoring, pause and ask:
Am I handing over my map—or helping them draw theirs?

Let’s keep growing strong thinkers—not just good followers.
And let’s grow alongside them.

Go well this week,
MA :-)